I posted this piece in 2011. I think it is simplifies the idea of deep listening in a very personal way when it was not easy. My relationship with my son during the height of his teen years challenged me to step up and grow. Listening is one of the technologies featured in my new book, the Technology of Doing Creating and Being. Check it out and let me know what you think.
Listening (posted on Facebook Life Mapping Group 09-28-2011)
I am rediscovering deep listening. It has been coming up in my own work and with my clients. To listen is to open all of your senses to hear what is there in the present. It may start with being able to listen to your heart beat at will no matter where you are. Listening to your spirit whispering “call her” or “go left”. How many times have I ignored or missed those quiet messages only to realize afterwards that had I listened instead of questioned, I would have stood in a better place, missed traffic, been available for a friend. Listening is not thinking. It is not waiting for your turn to speak. Deep listening is taking in the other person, nature, yourself in ways that are so complete that thoughts are not available. My son has been telling me I never listen. Today I realize that he is right. When we talk, I have so much fear, so many thoughts, and questions that I can’t hear what he is saying. His expression doesn’t come the way I expect. He is not easy to understand as his expression is full of emotionality that triggers my fears and my own baggage and there in is the miss. Today, I get to practice listening more closely to my heart beat, to my breathing, to my spirit, to my clients, to my son.