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Planning for Your Third Act – The New Retirement

Your Third Act

Retirement is often a scary prospect.  But in 2018, we are not planning your great grandmother’s retirement.  This generation of elders are more vibrant and active than their predecessors.  They have a lot to offer and are still dreaming of the contribution they want to make to the world after traditional retirement age of 65.  It has become a time for babyboomer and some who retire before 65 to follow their passion, to reinvent themselves and their lives in a manner that is more suited to who they really are and have become.

 

I want to suggest that you begin thinking and envisioning your third act.  What do you want to do, how do you want to live, what contribution do you want to make as you shift to your focus and work life to what we have traditionally called ‘retirement’ or what I have starting to referring to the ‘3rd Act’.

 

What does success look like as you age?  What is your ideal lifestyle now?  What contribution do you want to make as an elder in the community?  These are the questions I have been supporting my clients over 50 to address as their energy and focus shifts to elderhood.  What the research shows is that elders who have a vision, a purpose and clear goals that motivate them to stay active and engaged live longer more vibrant lives after retirement.  To figure out what your third act looks like, RSVP for my next webinar Wed, August 22, 2018 at 8 pm EST– Planning for Your Third Act.

 

 

Summer Solstice June 21, 2018

Summer is a glorious time of year.  And the Summer Solstice is magical.  On the physical plane, it is a time when in the northern hemisphere, the day is the longest and in the southern hemisphere the day is the shortest as the earth rotates around the sun and the sun shifts its position on the earth.  In many northern places that are closer to the north poles, this is the night where the sun does not set. This brings about the phrase, the long days of summer.  The Solstice is the time where the sun begins to shift and the days start becoming shorter leading us towards to the winter solstice in December.  It is also usually the time where farmers have planted their crops and are waiting for plants to grow and yield fruit.

On the spiritual front, the Summer Solstice has been a time throughout the ages where people have celebrated the life giving forces of the sun and all the ways it creates abundance, light, and energy for our planet and its inhabitants.

As you think about the summer solstice and what you are manifesting in your life, it is a perfect time to give thanks for all of the blessings and discern what is needed now for you to manifest the life style you desire.  Even the farmer, tends to his/her fields during summer to nurture them along, make sure that they have enough water and shade if needed to grow and prosper.  It is also a time of waiting because nature can’t be rushed.  Despite our technological advances, plants grow on their own pace and being in the timing of the earth/sun’s cycles are critical to a good harvest.  Being in the timing that the Universe has for us is also critical to our ability to manifest our goals. So the Summer Solstice reminds us of both the need to act, nurture ourselves and the things we are doing to manifest our deepest desires and also the need to “be” and allow for the divine timing of the Universe to support us in manifesting a good harvest when its time.

So I invite you to celebrate the solstice with me on my Summer Solstice Life Mapping session and explore how you are doing and being in your efforts to create or manifest the things that you want in life.

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FAITH – Belief in Things Unseen

One of my good friends shared that she didn’t have the faith that I have.  My words, paraphrased.  She made this comment during a life mapping workshop I did for my consultants back in the day.  I remembered that recently and began reflecting on faith.

Faith – the belief in things unseen.  Unseen, not unknown.  I have powerful faith.  Not in some white guy in the sky.  I have faith in the power of love.  That energy that makes the sun rise, that allows for us to recover from deep greif and loss, that makes us get up and try again after falling on our face and feeling like a failure.  I believe in things unseen but not things unknown.  I have faith in my vision.  I have faith in my ability to change my cricumstances.  I have faith in the power of love to make every one of my dreams come true, not because I deserve it, but because I am willing to do everything in my power to make it happen and I have faith that the Universe will meet me the rest of the way.

My testimony is my life.  The pure love I have in my spirit for every human being.  My testimony is coming from a shy, nearly broken place, getting my nickers tied in a bunch because my grandmother wouldn’t let me take tap dancing lessons and be in the school play, the Good Ship Lollipop.  I was so mad and disappointed that I vowed to be a movie star when I grew up.  And that fueled my through my 20’s.  Then I fell in love and birthed to amazing children on WIC and medicaid.  We had nothing and we had everything – I was so happy with my new family. As my love for them grew so did my commitment to making the world a better place for them and for me.  I committed to my business and my personal and spiritual growth so I could teach them by my example.  It cost me my marriage.  I never wanted to be a single mom and that’s where I found myself.   But my vision prevailed and despite my independent employment status, some how my faith delivered my dream home and gave me the stability to keep it even with the economic downturns of the early 2000s.  My children grew.  My business grew.  And I grew.  I became happy, healthy and whole.  And that is when my dreams started to manifest before my eyes.  The book, the speaking, the clients, then the long awaited soul mate.  When I think about all that it took to get each of us ready and then put us in the same town, in the same bar on the same night and get us to talk to each other, I am so grateful that the Universe met me in my vision and that I had the faith to continue to hold that vision of myself and my life and my love, unwavering even when it didn’t come as fast as I wanted it.

Faith is  believing in yourself even when you have no idea how to make your vision a reality.  Faith is putting one foot in front of the other and doing what is needed in each moment as best you can to move towards your vision, your ideal life – one action, one decision, one choice at a time.  I put the technologies into action and my faith was that these ancient practices would work for me as long as I didn’t give up.  And now my vision is to share them with you so you can create an amazing life and tell someone else about it.

Human Nature: Getting What You Want

It is basic human instinct to figure out how to get what you want.  Our basic needs and our dreams and desires are foremost on our minds and on our list of priorities.  Some of what we want are material things.  Some of the things we want are altruistic.  As human beings, after our basic needs for shelter, food and clothing, our wants center around our need for happiness, love and health.

Then the next step is how will we get what we want.  Our values guide us.  Do we try and get what we want by pious means or by fraudulent means.  And how will we treat the people we encounter on the journey.

Those of us who have our values connected to our spiritual beliefs have an internal sense of right and wrong – good and bad.  Most of us will shy away from getting what we want by fraudulent means.

But how do we get what we want by pious means in a world where the playing field is not level or equal to all who want to play and in a world where we may not be able to get all the information we need to move forward in a good way.

The Technology of Doing Creating & Being, will help you integrate these powerful spiritual skills into your daily life so you can manifest what you want and live your ideal lifestyle step by step each day regardless of how much money is in your bank account.  Use these spiritual and human technologies to create a live where you are healthy, happy and whole and moving powerfully on your self-mastery journey.

There are 9 human technologies that support us to use our spiritual powers to manifest what we want in the immediate.  These technologies are thought, vision, self-awareness, scanning, strategy, consistent action, relationship, listening and obedience.

Click Here to watch my recent webinar and learn about these technologies and how they work.

Consistent Action: Practice is not a one-time event

I am as guilty as the next person.  I want instant results.  I exercise for a few weeks and wake up fit and fine.  I mediate for 3 days in a row and I want that calm and peace to stay forever.  But there is a reason they call it a practice.  Like one of my yoga teachers is fond of saying – “its a yoga practice, not a yoga perfect” We all struggle with how to bring these ideas into our lives as part of our way of living.  That our meditation, our journaling, our healthy living practices become as much a part of our lives as brushing our teeth.  But, if you are like me, it’s hard to stick to it long enough for it to become automatic.  We have a million real reasons – fatigue, mood swings, etc. Then I remind myself that when I stick to my routine I have less of that lethargic feeling, less mood swings, I feel better, 100%.  And then there is the really hard and powerful stuff we want to create in our lives – love, career, happiness, health and wealth.  How are we doing the daily things we need to do for ourselves to manifest those bigger life goals.  It’s all about changing our minds so our lives will follow.  And we all need support to stick to it and not fall back into old habitual patterns that don’t serve us.

 

Truth be told, if you listen to the stories of successful people, it was 10 years of consistent action before they became an overnight success and were recognized by the masses for their achievements.  It’s also a mindset that says something is easy or hard.  Consistent action is as easy, fun or difficult as you make it in your mind.  I reminded Everett the other day that his body loves working out.  He is so happy and feels so good after a good work out.  How does he/ how do we make getting that feeling a priority so we make time despite our competing priorities.

 

And the other side of that is to celebrate when we are consistent and give ourselves love and grace when we aren’t as consistent as we want to be.  Life  is fluid and so is what is needed from us each day.  Love yourself enough to be consistent with what is important and to be flexible and discern what is needed now and to forgive yourself for being human, tired, stressed, vegging in front of the TV instead of doing whatever you think you should be doing.

 

There is one more thing I want say about consistent action and creating powerful practices in your life that allow you to manifest what you want.  One thing that I have found that supports me in keeping my word to myself is to have a supportive community to hold me accountable.  Its often a role I play as a coach with my clients.  They know that they have a session with me and that is enough to push them to do the next thing.  So Everett and I are creating with our Life Mapping community to be a supportive accountability group for you.  I know it’s one more place to go check in– but we are hoping that it will become so helpful that you will check in every day and post your goals for the week and give your friends updates and they will give you encouragement.  I am looking forward to learning about your goals, dreams and vision for your life and supporting you to manifest it a little bit every day as you create the practice of consistent action.

So join our free community and let’s build a place that supports us holding each other accountable to making our dreams come true.

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