So, when we decided to be a couple, Everett said, we need to make a deal breaker list.
What is a deal breaking list you might ask yourself? It is the list of things that your partner might do that would end the relationship as you know it.
Even if you stay together, your relationship would be forever changed. So we each searched our souls and seriously thought through our values. We separately wrote down our lists of actions that would spiritually, emotionally or morally would negatively impact the current relationship. Then we gave each other the list.
We discussed the story behind each item on our list. Then we agreed to honor each other’s list holding these items sacred and vowing never to cross these boundaries.
Everett’s List
- Trust
- Lies
- Cheating
- Unwillingness to accept family
Monika’s List
- Trust
- Honesty
- Violence
What we learned was that our lists were compatible and so it was easy to agree that we would not violate each other’s list. The beauty is that unless we do something that violates this list we are safe in the belief that the relationship will continue in a good way.
It’s made all the difference in creating safety and trust between us. So what is on your deal breaker list? Tell us in the comment section below!
